The relationship killer I am guilty of: A Nagging Girlfriend

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Out of curiosity, I took a test from one of my mostly visited site Femalenetwork.com which answers, "What Relationship Killer Are You Guilty Of?". After answering those 10 questions, I hit the "view result button". Carefully, I read the interpretations and it read like this: 

"YOU CAN BE A NAGGING GIRLFRIEND." 

One of your most endearing traits is that you are able to talk and relate with anyone regardless of social background--even someone you've met for the first time is no match for your friendly banter. Unfortunately, your being talkative can sometimes run amok. You can sometimes come close to talking someone's ear off. Your guy can attest to that. It’s one thing being outspoken, but constant badgering is an entirely different thing. He probably hears enough nagging from his mother--he doesn't need to hear it from you too.

Keep your tendency to nag in check by paying attention to your guy's mood. Don't assume that there's something wrong when he's quiet; remember that even people in relationships need their space too and that you don't always need to know every single detail of your guy's life now. Give him time to reveal himself to you--part of what makes a relationship last is the fact that you should be constantly learning new things about each other, both good and bad. "

I was like, "Really! I can be a nagging girlfriend!". It made me pause for a while and ask myself, "Am I really?". After going through some sort of self-validation, I could honestly say Yes I can be a nagging girlfriend (at times). 

As much as I would, I wanted my relationship be private but this I shall tell you, lessons I've learned in this relationship. Just last night, we had a fight which started again by me. I began nagging him for the nth time for a very nonsense reason  that I don't even want to disclose. When he's talking, I don't even bother to listen until such point that we no longer know what we're really fighting. I was so mad that I felt my blood ran up to my head. I persistently annoy him that I didn't know I am harassing him already. When he chooses not to speak, just to end our fight,  the more I become tamang hinala. I'd say what I wanted to say without thinking that I am hurting him so much. When he said, "Sana man lang, isipin mo muna yung sasabihin mo bago ka magsalita". In that instant, I felt that I've been stubbed deep down inside. 

There will always come a time that our man will need a space only for himself. It doesn't mean that he wants to stay away from us or nagsasawa na or may iba na but that time  could be used to know himself more or maybe to find his purpose that we, as girlfriend can't even provide. In short, he needs a break. Just like what a song says, "even lovers need a holiday."

I should learn when to stop nagging even before he starts getting pissed off. Instead of nagging, I should have listened to him. Listen with an open heart and mind. Two-way communication is way better.